you’ve been in terrible pain in places that don’t show up in X- rays, when you can’t find the words to explain it even to the people who love you.

This was precisely why he didn’t want his son to become a policeman.

NIcely Reveals their relationship

“Do you know what the worst thing about being a parent is? That you’re always judged by your worst moments.

They trust us, which is a crushing responsibility, because they haven’t yet realized that we don’t actually know what we’re doing.

Some men run like hunters, but he ran like their prey.

the boy’s scream across the water that neither sounded nor felt like it came from him. He barely heard it anyway, the shock

you can’t protect your kids from life, because life gets us all in the end.”

Then he started to dream that Jack might become a writer instead. That’s an impossible thing for sons to grasp,

We want to walk in their footsteps while they pursue our dreams.

There are so many things that stand between the older policeman and the younger one now, regardless of how close they live to each other.

It’s hard to tell exactly when a person’s substance abuse begins, which is why everyone is lying when they say: “I’ve got it under control.” Drugs are a sort of dusk that grant us the illusion that we’re the ones who decide when the light goes out, but that power never belongs to us. The darkness takes us whenever it likes.

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He sometimes thinks it’s impossible to know if children end up completely different despite the fact that they grew up together, or precisely because of that.

It’s easier to talk about work when you haven’t quite got the words to talk about the other things in life, but obviously those words apply to both things at the same time.

We lie to those we love.

They’re perverted commas.

inverted commas.

“Sick.” Don’t you know what “sick” means? It means good, okay?

wasn’t, but the bank robber was thirty- nine, and had therefore reached an age where there’s suddenly very little difference between fourteen and twenty. That’s what makes a person feel old.

it’s easier to live with your own anxieties if you know that no one else is happy, either.

realize that absolutely nobody cares about us, we have to deal with everything ourselves now, find out how the whole world works. Work

Life doesn’t always turn out the way you expect.

It was called a crisis in the financial markets, a bank crash, even though the only ones who crash are people.

seeing as dads like teaching their sons things, because the moment we can no longer do that is when they stop being our responsibility and we become theirs.

we actually get so used to the feeling of failure that every time we don’t disappoint our children it leaves us feeling secretly shocked.

No one noticed that before the girls appeared, but children notice people’s proportions in a different way from adults, possibly because they always see us from below,

Perhaps there’s a biological reason for that, that up to a certain age a child loves you unconditionally and hopelessly for one single reason: you’re theirs. Which is a pretty smart move on biology’s part, you have to give it that.

Perhaps you have that in common after all. You probably have someone in your life whom you’d do something stupid for.

Because how happy can anyone really be, all the time? How could there be time for that? Mostly we’re just trying to get through the day. You’ve probably had days like that as well.

It’s possible for someone to be unfaithful to you without really thinking about you at all,

Falling in love is magical, after all, romantic, breathtaking… but falling in love and love are different.

Good grief, no one could cope with being newly infatuated, year after year. When you’re infatuated you can’t think about anything else, you forget about your friends, your work, your lunch.

The problem is that everything is relative, happiness is based on expectations, and we have the Internet now. A whole world constantly asking us: “But is your life as perfect as this? Well? How about now? Is it as perfect as this? If it isn’t, change it!”

grass looks greener on the other side of the fence, that’s probably because it’s full of shit.

Suddenly you find yourselves living alongside each other, not with each other.

Plausible, anyway. Then it turns out that one of us wants more, just getting through the day isn’t enough.

isn’t that it makes all the time you devoted to the relationship feel wasted, but that it steals all the plans you had for the future.

bank said, because who’d lend money to someone without money? You only lend money to people who don’t really need to borrow money.

So true

It seems that main reason for book is this divorce and all the love stuff

Then

The stupidest thing people who have everything think about people who have nothing is that it’s pride that stops a person from asking for help. That’s very rarely the case.

if you had money, you wouldn’t need a loan, but the bank can’t see the logic in that.

You shouldn’t have loved me. All your life you’ve promised yourself that you’ll cope with everything. Not be a chaotic person. Not have to beg for help.

Snake! Obviously that’s neither logical nor plausible, but if phobias were logical and plausible they wouldn’t be called phobias.

wasn’t from Stockholm, but that didn’t matter, because if you asked Jim and Jack, being a Stockholmer was more a state of mind than a description of geographic

couldn’t live with the fact that the other one had such ugly shoes, and the other was turned off by the fact that the first dribbled when he brushed his teeth,

It struck Jim that today’s youngsters had far too much choice, that was the whole problem— if all those modern dating apps had existed when Jim’s wife first met him, she would never have ended up becoming his wife. If you’re constantly presented with alternatives, you can never make up your mind, Jim thought. How could anyone live with the stress of knowing that while their partner was in the bathroom, they could be swiping right or left and finding their soul

beautifully dressed in that way that people who have become financially independent on the back of other people’s financial dependency often are.

“Sometimes it’s hard to know who the biggest crooks are, people who rob banks, or the people who run the banks.”

“Surely it’s better to joke about it than to actually have cancer? Or would you rather I had cancer?”

“I don’t know what happiness is for her.”

And we know that it’s very common for people suffering from depression to be afraid of feeling happy. Because even depression can be a sort of secure bubble,

people who are wealthier than you are and say: ‘Yes, they may be richer, but are they happy?’ As if that was the meaning of life for anyone but a complete idiot,

The truth is that far more people would rather be rich than happy.”

Conflicts are good. Only weak people believe in harmony, and as a reward they get to float through life with a feeling of moral superiority while the rest of us get on with

perhaps there’s a difference between loneliness and friendlessness.

“In my experience there are plenty of people who are real pigs. Emotionally cold, thoughtless people. But even we don’t want to believe that we’re bad.”

If I’m being honest, I think that almost all of us have a need to tell ourselves that we’re helping to make the world better. Or at least that we’re not making it worse. That we’re on the right side. That even

we breach our own moral code, we have to come up with an excuse for ourselves.

there are very few people who could live with knowing that they are… bad.”

We never really know what we do to each other, with each other, for each other.

It just hurts so much at times, being human. Not understanding yourself, not liking the body you’re stuck in.

You can get it into your head to do some unbelievably stupid things when you run out of tears, when

She was so used to saying what she knew other people wanted to hear, so they wouldn’t worry,

That drove her to choose a profession, a career, a whole life. She became a psychologist. The

that was why you should always be nice to other people, even idiots, because you never know how heavy their burden is.

You can always tell by the way people who love each other argue: the longer they’ve been together, the fewer words they need to start a fight.

but for a man like Roger a truth is a truth, regardless of its cause. From time to time

think that every feeling fluttering about in all your hormones is completely unique.

The ones who are looking for a home are emotional idiots, they’ll pay anything because they think all their problems will just disappear the moment they move in.

People like that go to viewings thinking that everything would feel better if only they were living there.

he says, and all your enemy wants is to get it over with. They just want to move in and have done with it and never have to move again.

Do you know how many IKEA stores there are in Sweden?

I should never have paid for that darn rabbit.

She didn’t notice the cold air blowing in, as if a window were open. As if there could be an open window in a closet.

Everyone inside the apartment had their own complexes, their own demons and anxieties:

“I just mean that sometimes it isn’t what you say you’re upset about that you’re upset about!

“Thanks for that, you’re a real tonic. You’re like a self- help book, only in reverse.”

hippie when it came to politics, and that you don’t always discover that sort of thing until a couple of months into a relationship, but

“You love each other until you can’t live without each other. And even if you stop loving each other for a little while, you can’t… you can’t live without

“You don’t fall in love with a gender, Anna- Lena. You fall in love with an idiot.”

overpopulated, and she’s worried about climate change. I don’t know why ordinary anxieties aren’t enough. Does anyone really need something

you hard of thinking or something? Just make a decision for once! No one’s going to respect you otherwise!”

When you’re a child you long to be an adult and decide everything for yourself, but when you’re an adult you realize that’s the worst part of it.

You have to make choices and be chosen by others, every second, the whole time.

“Even if I knew that tomorrow the world would go to pieces, I would still plant my apple tree.”

you might be able to drum religion into people, you can’t teach faith.

and their families are addicted to

“We can’t change the world, and a lot of the time we can’t even change people. No more than one bit at a time. So we do what we can to help whenever we get the chance, sweetheart.

Why the hell is gender being changed

She

no one in the world shared her prospects, and that’s the greatest loneliness in the world:

One of the most human things about anxiety is that we try to cure chaos with chaos. Someone who has got themselves into a catastrophic situation rarely retreats from it, we’re far more inclined to carry

the people we argue with hardest of all are not the ones who are completely different from us, but the ones who are almost no different at all.

easier for people who never do anything themselves than to criticize someone who actually makes an effort.

“Boats that stay in the harbor are safe, sweetheart, but that’s not what boats were built for.”

“God doesn’t protect people from knives, sweetheart. That’s why God gave us other people, so we can protect each other.”

“It means that the poor get poorer, the rich get richer, and the real class divide is between those who can borrow money and those who can’t.

Back there we used to think your town was metropolitan. To us, you were the Stockholmers.” “Everyone is someone else’s Stockholmer, I guess.”

the economic system she has devoted her life to working in is the world’s biggest problem right now, because we made the system too strong. We forgot how greedy we are, but above all we forgot how weak we are. And now it’s crushing us.

Knut said that sooner or later the first flush of infatuation wears off and you end up arguing whether you like it or not.

Julia laughed as she thought about it now. That happens quite a lot when you’re married to an idiot.

He says you end up marrying the one you don’t understand. Then you spend the rest of your life trying.

“He was my echo. Everything I do is quieter now,”

Estelle smiled feebly. If you’ve lived with teenagers, you know they only exist for themselves, and their parents have their hands full dealing with the various horrors of

“Life goes so fast. Working life, anyway,”

“We probably make all the same mistakes that your generation did. Just different versions of them.”

‘You can’t live long with the ones who are only beautiful, Jules. But the funny ones, oh, they last a lifetime!’ ”

your children aren’t your children, they’re the sons and daughters of life’s longing for itself.

flight through the mountains that humor is the soul’s last line of defense, and as long as we’re laughing we’re alive, so bad puns and fart jokes were their way of expressing their defiance against despair.

He used to say authors were like musicians who never get to the point.

Where didn’t matter. To outer space.

Just the odd word. ‘Beautiful.’ ‘True.’ That’s the power of literature, you know, it can act like little love letters between people who can only explain their feelings by pointing at other people’s.

It’s such an odd thing, the way you can know someone so perfectly through what they read.

But if there’s one thing modern life and the Internet have taught us, it’s that you should never expect to win a discussion simply because you’re right.

only need one thing in common to find each other sympathetic.

to the handrail to stop himself collapsing as his heart broke. Empathy is like vertigo.

Maybe she wasn’t enough fun— maybe it’s unreasonable to expect someone to stay with you if you’re not fun.

“No, that’s just it! Everything has to be like the first flush of infatuation for youngsters, nothing can be mundane, they’ve got the attention span of a kitten with a glittery rubber ball,”

if he knew that the world was going to hell tomorrow, he’d plant an apple tree today.”

understand that people need fairy tales as well, not just narrative. I’ve

We are asleep until we fall in love.

Love is wanting you to exist.

Nothing must happen to you No, what am I saying Everything must happen to you And it must be wonderful

“Yes, I’m happy, Zara. Not all the time, but I’ve learned that you don’t have to be happy all the time.

They say that a person’s personality is the sum of their experiences.

did the exact opposite, because it’s the duty of children not to pay the slightest bit of attention to their parents.

The new year arrives, which of course never means as much as you hope unless you happen to sell calendars.

Because we’re doing the best we can, we really are. We’re trying to be grown- up and love each other and understand how the hell you’re supposed to insert USB leads. We’re looking for something to cling on to, something to fight for, something to look forward to. We’re doing